We were invited to Mimi’s grandmother’s house for the half new-year celebration. Miss Thao’s father passed away recently, and when we went in the walls were lined with funerary flowers and banners from friends and family. A large alter faced the entrance of the greeting area, and many of us lit incense to honor him before taking seats at the tables being set up for us. We all knew her family would be hospitable, but we never imagined they would feed us a multi-course meal that they had been up since 4 am preparing. From white rose to spring roles to duck, the meal was easily the most traditional – and most delicious – that we’ve had this whole trip.
They also allowed us to do some filming, and we were able to capture the many generations that had gathered to Mimi’s grandmother’s home. Miss Thao explained a bit in the documentary about the funeral process, while I attempted to gather as many members of the family together as I could for pictures.
The most touching experience of it all for me was when I held Mimi’s grandmother’s hands and thanked her for the meal and for inviting us all on such an intimate family occasion. She doesn’t speak any English, but from the way she smiled and clasped my hand I’m sure she understood everything.
-Vanessa